The People-Pleasing Trap: When Being “Nice” Costs You
Most people who struggle with people-pleasing don’t think of themselves as people-pleasers. They think of themselves as considerate, or easy to get along with.…

David Schottenstein candidly discusses his legal troubles, including a prison sentence for insider trading, and its profound impact on his life. He emphasizes the importance of integrity, the lessons learned from his mistakes, and the value of family support and connection in growing from struggles.
Most people who struggle with people-pleasing don’t think of themselves as people-pleasers. They think of themselves as considerate, or easy to get along with.…
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